Pre incarnation, when we are source perspective, we are the absolute purest expression of love.
Source and love = Exact same thing.

Then we incarnate into a body, into ‘duality’, there is now a ‘you’, and you 'perceive source’ as separate (of course in the highest dimension this is all still one) but from this human perspective this is not our embodied experience or reality. Unconsciously we feel ‘cut off from’ source, we forget we ‘are’ love. So, we go to seek this love externally.

Love is to become ‘one with’. When we love we are literally taking that thing or person in ‘as’ us, as one, no separation. When we are in-love we experience the highest vibrational state because our energy is now the most aligned with source energy, ‘home’ energy.

When we separate or break up with someone our core source abandonment wound is triggered, for most people it’s completely unconscious that we are triggered alllll the way back to incarnation when we don’t recall with our mind, but our cellular memory remembers ALL, and affects us whether we are conscious to it or not.

Most people will think they are just experiencing pain from relationship separation and project and react from this place and play the blame game out with this person and end up in the same situation over and over possibly with multiple people, relationships and lovers.

We manifest the same scenario to play out because this is what all our wounds do, they manifest the perfect environments and situations and people to trigger so we have opportunity to become aware, heal and integrate and become whole again. The vast majority will never make this journey as they will simply never remember or ‘believe’ we created wounding the moment we got here just by choosing to be here and forgetting we chose.

Separation with other feels like we are losing love, betrayed by love, losing love we took in as ourselves and we forget again we ‘are’ love and our energy plummets and our biochemistry is affected, dopamine of love is replaced by cortisol and epinephrine of stress. The heart literally hurts as the brain sends messages that this emotional pain is physical. The abandonment is very real, very potent.

Most will numb or suppress or distract or refuse to let go (even when it’s so clear romantic/growth compatibility together is over). Anything, so as not to feel it. To press the ‘pain relief button’. Others will avoid romantic love with another completely and convince themselves they don’t need it. It’s literally the greatest pain of all if we truly allow ourselves to feel it, we must not avoid in any way but consciously go directly towards it and invite the pain in and vibrate it through to our ‘core’ wound AND mother wound together, because they link up.

Perhaps another reason we enter the world through the birth canal screaming and crying, that very moment our bodies/awareness perceives separation.
*Firstly, that we’re no longer one with source,
*And secondly that we’re no longer one with mother.
Moving the energy is so innate as tiny babies, we know no other way than to feel, and shake and scream.

Then we become dependent on our parents love for survival and through the process of socialization in an emotionally unevolved society we learn that we can’t be loved for our full selves so we create masks and deny and suppress aspects of self and make them bad or wrong and believe they are unlovable because we learn there are parts of us if we express them, don’t get our needs met, don’t get love = won’t survive (and ironically not surviving is the fastest way back to source love)

It’s way easier said than done, but the only way to get to the core wound is through the perceived betrayal of love, usually this is in romantic separation/breakup (this can also be done staying in relationship if BOTH partners are doing the inner work). We must go so deeply into the pain that we literally die, our identity of who we think we are literally dies. (And, this feels almost impossible as we are also hardwired to avoid fear and pain in order to survive, and of course we think we need to maintain the mask and identities that we have learnt get us the only love and connection we know). However, literally dying to old self is the only way we come back to the core and the truth of who we are... when at the bottom on the pain is only ‘love’, ‘source’, never separate, we see we were just in illusion. Many people will get this intellectually and spiritually and still not make the journey.

When we shed our mask/conditioned identity, as a pure expression of source love we can finally be trusted to choose the life chosen for us and fulfill our actual purpose for incarnating, which is then not so focused as an individual separate purpose, but a planetary purpose. The planet manifested us for a purpose, and I don’t know why but I believe we are largely not achieving it because the world has not matured in this kind of love. Guess there was a glitch in the system somewhere, but to go down the rabbit hole of those theories is going to distract me. Essentially, we want to complete karmic relationships (relationships manifested from unhealed wounds to heal, learn and grow) and embark on dharmic relationships (relationships more supportive of one another's soul path and expression). The difference between feeling another person 'completes' you, to being whole and coming together with another whole being.

In my view, this is actually the single biggest most important thing we need to get and embody out of ALL of this entire life journey. Every other thing leads to this, no one will ever be truly on soul purpose/planetary purpose unless they get and embody, and live and breathe, and express this. (which they can't unless going through the core wound) because they will still be at some level dissipating energy in the outward hunt for love and approval to complete and fill something they forgot they never lost, purpose and relationships will always have that feel within that it needs to feed an egoic part that still 'needs' validation and approval. (Mummy and daddy’s love).

We talk about materialism, but even most spiritual people who talk about being ‘on purpose’ are just living spiritual materialism, it's just a new shiny cloak, that’s why so much feels so fake and competitive.

True love, embodied love will get heaps of validation and approval, but it doesn't 'need' it. It will also get the opposite because love polarizes on a planet that doesn't know pure love, and your 'source-love' will trigger the fuck out of people still avoiding their wounds. The courage to be polarizing is also the only way to make real impact and change, and when you are truly an embodiment of love you will stand on the battlefield and face this -all the projections. You would even be crucified for love, like Jesus, because you come to realize in the end literally nothing-else-matters. Showing up for Love and showing up AS love is the entire point of this entire existence. (We want to aim to stop looking for love and BE LOVE!)

So many journeying this path will think they 'have' self-love because the only love people know is the love they know. Like the majority of people think their orgasm is awesome and have no comprehension they are experiencing 5% of their pleasure capacity.
I guess that's the problem with self-love - there is still a ‘self’ 😉

And anything other than complete self-love and 100% authenticity and being true to self when you are romantically with another is going to be some form of neediness, transactional relating, attachment and co-dependence. So yes, this is absolutely the large majority of relationships and marriages on the planet today.

What I have just spoken to is every person on the planets journey, we are all here to remember love, embody love, transmit love, be love. The abandonment wound is everybody’s core wound, though most will live their entire life and never know that’s what needs addressing and that that’s what’s unconsciously driving their life.

‘Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you’ll call it fate’ - Carl jung

Also, as side note love is considered feminine energy and purpose and freedom masculine energy. So true love and true purpose will marry and mature in union within us simultaneously. Spiritual entrepreneurs not living and contributing from source-love are typically on a path of spiritual materialism, ‘not’ soul/planetary purpose, they are working towards their individual goals, ideal version of self to market. Marked by a pronounced fear of survival and being run unconsciously by the blocked root chakra and viewing money as = individual survival, authority and power.... these people will mostly never have any idea because they are still attached to using their spirituality as a mask to being ‘good and liked and successful’ (hint* these people never reveal their poop, unless they’re prostituting their vulnerability and probably feel shame and alone when their life is not as together as they portray).

Genuine soul emergence and aligning with planetary purpose takes a ton of authenticity, vulnerability, integrity and courage. A commitment to throwing it all in the fire continuously burning up the constructed self. Non negotiation to standing in full soul shine.

So in heart break, allow it to crush and dissolve you, to feel like it’s destroying you. Fully die in this pain... so a bigger heart, one you could never imagine beyond your wildest imaginations was possible can emerge ❤️